"The pain of a learning disorder resides not only in the strain one feels in trying to function but in the disconnections one can suffer, a disconnection from language and from thought, from expression and creativity, from books and from words, as well as from people and from feelings...While the child with dyslexia or ADD may stammer, stumble, and reverse, while he may disconnect from the word or the page or the person, he may also soar. It is therefore vital that we keep the windows of these children's minds clean, that we keep them free of the smudge and grease of shame, criticism, defeatism, and devaluation." - Edward Hallowell & John Ratey

“Shame is the breaking of the interpersonal bridge.”

- Gershen Kaufman

“Shame is the sudden interruption of pleasure.” - Silvan Tompkins

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“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” - Brene Brown

“Shame is being seen in a way you don’t want to be seen—the unbearable exposure of parts of self one doesn’t like.” - Francis Broucek

"85% of the men and women we interviewed for the shame research could recall a school incident from their childhood that was so shaming that it changed how they thought of themselves as learners. What makes this even more haunting is that approximately half of those recollections were what [we] refer to as creativity scars. The research participants could point to a specific incident where they were told they weren't good writers, artists, musicians, dancers, or something creative. This helps explain why the gremlins are so powerful when it comes to creativity and innovation." - Brene Brown